I am a flake. No more. 

So I need to get something off my chest and I hope what I am about to say can help some people. Right now, we have an epidemic of flaky people. They’re everywhere. Cancelling plans last minute, not responding to texts/calls and maybe even not showing up at all. Sometimes I am a flake. I get it. Things happen and people have to cancel. But over the last couple days it has happened to me 4 TIMES BY DIFFERENT PEOPLE!!!! I’m at my breaking point. 

A “flake” is described as ‘someone who generally makes plans with you, promises to do things, but can never seem to follow through with plans.’ When you confront them about their behaviour they will either deny it, get defensive, or simply run away.

It breaks my heart to realize this definition describes people in my social circle. 
I think part of the problem is we are losing our basic, respectful, communication skills because of cell phones. Since it’s so easy to text & call nowadays, it’s equally easy to NOT text or call. We never make time to connect with people without a screen anymore. Honestly it shocks me that people actually think that always canceling plans last minute and not responding to texts is OK!?!? Personally, I find it extremely immature, mean, and completely disrespectful. It’s a miracle if people actually show up on time, or even at all. 

The more I think about it, the more it actually crushes my spirit. I have lots of friends with whom I’d love to catch up with. However, it’s basically IMPOSSIBLE to make plans with them that they ACTUALLY follow through with. 

Then, after awhile I just give up. The constant disappointment becomes too exhausting, especially when you don’t feel effort being reciprocated. So my solution is…. -Call More, Text Less (Therefore Less miscommunications) 

-No longer will I cancel plans last minute with someone unless I physically cannot move. 

-No longer will I let a friend cancel plans last minute more than 3 times. 

And my phone will be off all day Sunday’s for a screen time break. 

Please comment if you have an opinion on this topic. I’d love to hear your thoughts. 

Netflix’s 13 Reasons Why- Season One Review

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So I don’t usually make long posts like this, but after binge watching 13 reasons why I wanted to get some things off my chest about the hit Netflix series.
The show has received some backlash from suicide prevention groups. They think the show “glorifies suicide” and I’ve heard people say the show uses suicide as “revenge.” Personally, I didn’t get that message from 13 Reasons Why. I believe these suicide prevention groups missed a crucial part.
The show explains that the people in your life hurt when you hurt yourself. It puts a much needed spotlight on sexual assault and bullying. 13 reasons why effectively shows how everyone’s actions affect other people in some way, good or bad. Each person who received the tapes negatively affected Hannah’s life to lead her to want to take her own life. Then I realized something that Hannah didn’t. She didn’t realize how much more suffering she would cause by committing suicide. Her parents suffered. Clay was madly in love with her so he suffered greatly, and everyone else on the tapes suffered in their own way.
I learned that you should be kind to everyone because you truly never know how much pain someone is in. I love the scene when Clay tells Hannah he loves her because it teaches everyone that you shouldn’t wait to tell someone you love them if you do. You never know what storms people are going through, or when their last day will be. So be kind to everyone. It could save their life.
“You can’t love someone back to life. But you can try.” -13 Reasons Why

This is why you need the slip dress…

Everyone wants to be ahead of the game when it comes to fashion trends. For some people it just comes naturally. These people set the trends, and other people follow along. If you’re not the kind of girl that knows what’s going to be in style beforehand, then I’m here for you babe. I’ve put together my predictions for Spring fashion trends and added where you can get the less expensive alternative. You’re welcome!

THE DRESS IS….THE SLIP DRESS

Ok, anyone who knows me knows that I LOVE dresses so that is why I am going to start with my spring dress prediction for 2016.huhkuhihi

This spring is all about the sexy, flirty slip dress. This dress makes you look and feel seductive and confident. It’s supposed to look like you effortlessly  just ‘rolled out of bed’ , (preferably with a smoking hot guy and simply went on with your day.) It’s like the classy walk of shame. My advice is to get one made out of silk, but you may have to fork out some money for a silk one. An Alexander Wang slip dress can cost anywhere from $700-$1,000!  Or you can get one with lace on it that is just as fashionable as one of the high end designer dresses. I found one at Forever 21 Canada for only $22.90. 00183403-02

This slip has the black lace on the top part of the dress, which makes it look more like a dress than a slip. (which is what it actually is.) If you think this dress is too short, you can always opt for a longer version or add a pair of knee high black socks or boots to complete this sexy look. Finish the look with a black leather jacket or blazer and you’re ready to go out on the town.

FLORAL CROCHET-PANELED MESH SLIP

CAD $22.90 

 

THE SHOE IS…THE SNEAKER

After dresses, my next favourite thing to purchase is shoes. This spring is going to be all about the comfortable sneaker and I am so happy about this!! Kanye West’s shoe line with Addidas ‘YEEZY BOOST 350’ designed by Kanye himself is the sneaker that is all the rage right now. However, they are mostly sold out except for some that are still available on eBay for over $1,000 a pop!  Luckily I found a pair of Nike sneakers that look somewhat similar and are only $155, so you don’t have to break the bank.

NIKE AIR FORCE 1 ID-$140

THE TOP IS…OFF THE SHOULDER

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For spring it’s all about showing off those sexy shoulders with off the shoulder sweaters and tops.  It honestly doesn’t matter what colours you pick, but keep in mind some of the spring colour predictions are; beige brown, mustard yellow, light rose pink and grey.  I definitely recommend adding a necklace or a fabric choker around your neck for some extra style points. There is an American Apparel off the shoulder top for $46.00 that I love because it comes with a choker, and four different colours. (see below)rsa83140_prettyinpink

 

AMERICAN APPAREL CHOKER TOP-$46.00

NOW LAST BUT NOT AT ALL LEAST…THE PANT IS…

THE JEAN!

To be for specific it is the retro, somewhat distressed, baggy jean. It’s the type of jean that you don’t have to get from an expensive, designer store. You can get this jean trend from vintage and thrift stores such as Value Village.  And BONUS once summer rolls around you can cut these jeans and turn them into high-waisted shorts.

The lighter colour jeans are more in style for spring/summer, and both distressed and non-distressed jeans are in style this year. And you can always add some rip’s and tears to your cheap, thrift store jeans that you got for like $7!

Retro, baggy, high waisted, distressed jean

WATCH OUT for “BANKS”- The Female Version of The Weeknd..?

You may have no idea who Banks is but according to Fox Weekly she is the “American Singer/Songwriter to watch out for”, and I have no choice but to completely agree! Her hauntingly, beautiful voice captivates your ears. While the sexy, laid-back lyrics keep you listening to her sultry R&B songs. Her full name is Jillian Rose Banks which may or may not be gossiped about, however in contrary, her stage name “Banks” I believe will be talked about on the radio in the months, weeks, or even days to come….

large (6)Banks has been compared, similarly to the Juno Award winning artist ‘The Weeknd”, but is in no way copying the R&B singer. Banks is a unique gem all on her own. Her Debut album “Goddess” was released on September 5th, 2014 and she is finally getting more of the credit that she righteously deserves. Her single off the album “Waiting Game” was featured on a Victoria Secret Commercial and in a trailer for the soon-to-be released film “The Longest Ride.”

Some of her other singles that need to be listened to for the “raw” sound are “Drowning”, “Beggin for Thread”, “Brain” and two of her tracks which wound up being featured on the October 9th, 2014 episode of Greys Anatomy; “Goddess” and “You Should Know Where I’m Coming From.”

Her sensual tone, and lyrically poetic songs make Banks my top pick for singer that we’ll all be talking about. You’ll be hearing her single “Waiting Game” on the radio very soon. Just wait for it.

What F.R.I.E.N.D.S taught me about life…

What F.R.I.E.N.D.S taught me about life...

1. ‘Life is unpredictable.’
-All of the characters started out at the bottom, struggling through hard times. Life changed drastically for all of them.

Chandler: Fell in love with his best friend, changed jobs, and bought a house in a neighbourhood with his wife and kids when he thought he would “Die Alone!”

Rachel: Found her independence by being able to depend on only herself and not her fathers credit cards.
She never thought she would end up with Ross but everything happens for a reason and they were simply meant to end up together.

Ross: Was married for 8 YEARS!
Talk about life being unpredictable! Finding out your wife of 8 years is attracted to other women.
Even though he was divorced three times, he never ever once showed that he didn’t believe in love. Ross and Rachel’s relationship I believe to be quite realistic. Life got in the way of their relationship countless times, but it all worked out in the end.

Monica: Never in a million years did she think that she would end up falling for her next-door neighbor and best friend Chandler Bing. And she clearly never expected Richard to confess his love for her after all that time.

Joey: His acting career was probably the most unpredictable part of his life. From being broke, borrowing money from his roommate and acting in plays that got bad reviews to being
Dr. Drake Ramoray on “Days of our Lives”, winning awards and attending A-list parties. If you stick to a dream, and have friends to support you, you just can’t fail. Joey defines this.

Phoebe: From being homeless on the streets, never having been in a serious relationship to being her own boss and getting married to the love of her life, Pheebs life was very unpredictable. She never really had a plan. She did whatever she felt like doing, in that moment and she always did it with a crazy, unique sense of humour. Her life being unpredictable is an understatement.

2. “That you can’t define yourself in terms of money. That its about values and morals and your ability to give and receive love.” -Phoebe Buffay

3. True friends won’t let lending money be an issue.
-Chandler constantly lent Joey money and I don’t think he could have fully paid him back. But with best friends money doesn’t really matter.
What matters most is people.
The relationships you have with people is the most important thing in the world.

4. To get where you want to be career-wise, you have to do the work nobody wants to do.
-Like Rachel with her first job in fashion, getting coffee for people and sorting all the hangers. And Monica working at the 50’s themed dinner. Everything starts from something.

5. Nerdy, shy, awkward guys are most likely going to be the loyal, faithful and the marrying type.
-Chandler : awkward, shy, jokester who always said the wrong thing …marries Monica
-Ross : Nerdy, desperate, hopeless romantic who can’t flirt at all….marries…Carole, Emily and Rachel.
-Joey: Ladies man, cool guy….doesn’t ever settle down.

7. It’s perfectly ok to not have a plan all the time.
-Ok none of them really had a plan, and even if you do God has another plan and it’s probably even better than yours so just go with whatever comes your way, be yourself and see what happens.

8. No matter how stressful your day was, it’s so hard to care in a relaxing bubble bath with bath salts, music and candles.

9. Never make a pro and con list about two people that you love.
If you truly loved the first person you wouldn’t even consider getting back together with the other person, regardless how many cons out-way the pros.

-So many of Ross and Rachel’s fights could have been avoided but I really do believe everything happens for a reason and I think the fights made them stronger as a couple.

10. Everybody has a lobster!